Family is the source of the greatest solace and joy for any person, and through thick and thin, our immediate as well as extended family provides the best support we can hope for. That is why every couple looks to grow their family with happy and healthy children. Some couples think differently, and do not have children because they wish to retain their independence or prolong their careers. But there are several other couples who so dearly wish to have children, but are unable to because of infertility in the male, or the female, or both.
Infertility is the source of great stress for the couple involved, and also gives rise to immense sadness and even depression sometimes. The primary reason for this is that the female or male involved feel bad for themselves due to their perceived lack of sexual ability, and then there is also the grief of not having their own children. One in every seven couples face the problem of infertility.
While no definitive cause can be attributed, but it is believed that our lifestyle has a major impact on infertility. Lifestyle would mean not only the food and rest patterns that we follow, but also the increased stress that we undergo. Infertility can be treated like any other ailment, and the treatments for infertility usually are directed at improving fertility with the help of a surgical procedure, or they might involve synthetically induced conception using artificial insemination or in-vitro fertilization.
But it is not necessary that all couples who have infertility problems need only medical procedures and assistance to resolve the problem. In fact, experts suggest that before any investigation and treatment of infertility, the couple should seek counselling from experts. Infertility gives rise to a lot of disappointment, frustration, anger, disillusionment and several other negative emotions, which also need to be addressed. Here are a few ways in which counselling can help the couple :
- Infertility impacts the channels of communications between the couple. That is why counselling is suggested so that these channels are not broken down because of such negative emotions. A couple would often realise that talking to each other would help each other cope much better.
- Counselling can not only help in improving the communication within the house, but also the communication between the couple and society at large. They can communicate better with friends, work colleagues, and neighbours which can often help them get useful advice or just a sympathetic shoulder to lean on. This is very important, because when infertility strikes, couples usually associate shame and stigma to it, and tend to draw back into their shells.
- Not only in interpersonal relations, but the counsellor could also be a good source of advice and guidance regarding the various treatments available and how the couple should approach the problem. This can be of great help because a suffering couple could often be confused by the plethora of treatment choices available, and a knowledgeable counsellor could help in understanding those choices and choosing the correct one.